I feel like I just need to know if I've done something wrong, I just can't live in this uncertainty. Not taking the chance. You hurt someone you love, someone who deserves better from you. throughout my.. er well 15 yrs of life i've done some hurtful things to people.. and i could never let that go.. even when the people who i've been mean to did let it go.. i can't seem to. Is it better to be honest when you've done something wrong? This person might be a parent, a sibling, a child, a friend, a… I even fixate on certain memories, like nights out which I don't remember because I was drinking, it's like the OCD fills in the gaps and tells me I've done bad things. You can do something wrong while still being a good person. Maybe you lost your company’s big client. I hated grade school, failed out of college, had a job that I hated where I wasn't making very much money, and hadn't been on a date in years. Basically, you're experiencing deja vu, which is the sense that you've been there or done that before. i always fear ive done something wrong after drinking . You also have the freedom to live life the way you want, on your own timeline. By hairstylist1987270102 | 55 posts, last post over a year ago. Don't feel like you need to go into detail about it. No matter how much i insisted at first that it wasn't me or they're wrong,they insisted it,and still do that it was me and they're right. If You've Really Messed Up Or Done Something Wrong In Your Relationship, This Is The Right And Most Effective Way To Apologize To Your Partner. As much as I'd like to tell you there's something supernatural in it, it's a simple case of crossed wires in your brain. It’s a hard thing to do. Maybe you weren’t there for someone when they needed you, even when you said you would be. 1. helpfulMoment81 July 25th, 2016 12:33am. Guilt is not necessary for being a good person, and, in fact, it can be detrimental to living a positive, present life. If the former, something I’ve had to remind myself of is that life does not happen in a vacuum with just me and that other person. Always thinking you've done something wrong. Every time I try to feel happy I tell myself I shouldn't be since I've been such a bad person, that I deserve the guilt. Something’s gone horribly, horribly wrong, and it’s all your fault. by Anonymous: reply 2: 02/25/2012: Nelly Neurosis! I think the only thing that you could have possibly done wrong in life is to regret not doing something. You’ve done something wrong. You know you were wrong and you did not take corrective action, so you live with the thought that you would like to think highly of yourself, but you also admit to yourself that you did something stupid. Nothing any human being can actually do to truly understand another human being and why they do something that they’ve done. “You should never feel bad if other people wrong you.” You see, all my life I’d been trying to avoid conflict, awkward situations and argument. Just stay calm, and speak matter-of-factly about the situation. Read more. Is the person’s behavior toward you causing you to believe you’ve done something wrong, or do you feel this way no matter how they are behaving? Confess Something "Wrong" that you have done thats right ladys and gents, its sunday afternoon, and everybodys catholic. My friends … Sometimes even at my own expenses. You've done nothing wrong with the principle of life. From putting a lid on boiling water to eating cheetos with chopsticks here are 18 Things You've Been Doing Wrong. I have a problem. I have had the same fear that I have done something wrong to many people for various reasons , like with the baby sitting, I have had that same exact fear. Guilt is natural. No one in history has ever choked to death from swallowing his pride. by Anonymous: reply 10: 02/25/2012: Polly Paranoia! Or remember that butterflies-in-your-tummy feeling you get when you first meet someone new? Admit that you did something wrong. If you’ve done something wrong, feeling guilty about it doesn’t do any of the following: take another person’s pain away, undo what’s been done, make you feel better about what you did, or (necessarily) change your future behavior. now, i know there are sites were you just confess something about yourself, something you are embarresed about, but i have come to think of cc as a … How can you let go when you've done something wrong? A friend asks you to review a resume before an upcoming job interview. OK, you screwed up. Do you come out with a confession or do you try to cover it up? It’s considered a negative, internal emotion that you experience when you think that you’ve done something you shouldn’t have. I know what you are thinking and I agree with you wholeheartedly. You’ve not been as good as you could be. If you know you've made a mistake and you've been caught, the best course of action is often to just admit it. If any of your friends possibly shared it, ask them to delete that too if it doesn’t delete itself when the original post is gone (I don’t remember how Facebook works, sorry.) You've agreed to do so, but somehow it slipped your mind. If you’ve left an abusive ex partner, you can finally reject their brainwashing that something’s wrong with you. Remember we aren't perfect and we tend to make mistakes. Now i don't bother trying to convince them i just go with the flow. Did you know about this stuff? by Anonymous: reply 1: 02/25/2012: Connie Casserole! I find that I lack initiative. An overabundance of guilt, however, is not. Maybe you forgot to do a critical part of that big project. Because as human we do the right things and the wrong things. Did you find this post helpful? Because of my low self-esteem, I was a people-pleaser and I tried my best to please everyone around me. A lot of guilt or shame can make you feel like there is something wrong with you. Anyone else been mistaken for someone else, or doing something that you know you just did not do? When you've done something wrong, admit it and be sorry. Perhaps you've been caught in a white lie, which soon becomes exposed. And how did you deal with it? I guess in elementary school i was mean because i was picked on lots.. ← Prev Post Next Post → Posted by Silver Quotes at 11/21/2016 11:26:00 PM. Realize, right now, that there is a very big difference between doing a bad thing and being a bad person. Every time I drink alcohol I always wake up and fear that I have done and said something horrible. A reminder ‘I’m still a human being!’ Even in that moment when you’ve done something wrong. Can ocd kind of treat you like you have done something bad and your thoughts change into believing you did do something bad but then you feel as you’ve always had this feeling you didn’t, that’s the truth. Miles Drake, MD answered this Anxiety After Drinking Alcohol . But, just having that recollection. I mean, all I can really say is, delete your post if you haven’t yet. I did something shady behind my friends back because I thought they were trying to trap me, so I stupidly went along with it to try to piss them off but that ended up not being the case at all and all I did was do something shady behind my innocent friend's back. Your reaction to being caught may have an impact on your punishment; you don't want to make things worse. Then I just go into a panic attack and cry. Things you've been doing WRONG your whole life! A guilt complex is defined as an obsessive disorder in which you feel that you’ve done wrong and that you always do wrong. I keep thinking about how mean i was.. How can you forgive yourself? "An enduring awareness that you’ve done something that deserves a scolding. Everyone's committed an indiscretion at some point in life. These conflicting thoughts are hard to maintain together in one head, so you either take corrective action or you start to think less of yourself. I am afraid to make my own decisions and when I do, I always feel like it's wrong. My mind will make up images of me doing things I know I would never ever do and then I start to worry that maybe I really did do it and just do not remember it. Have you ever had this? There’s no college course or training. New Reply Follow New Topic Followed by 2 people. It sounds like an oversimplified response, but the best way to get over stupid things you've done in the past is to stop doing stupid things, and focus on improving your life in general. Guilt comes from the mechanism of self-moderation. Leave a Like if you enjoyed! 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